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Did you know that perfectionism is often seen as a badge of honor?
People think it’s an indication that they have high standards, are detail-oriented, and obsessed with success.
But this couldn’t be further from the truth.
Perfectionism exists in the silent way they berate themselves for not living up to the vision they have of themselves in their mind.
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I used to consider myself a perfectionist, and even treated it as a good thing — like something I felt I should brag about.
It’s a topic I hold very close to my heart because of how much it has held me back, and it’s a challenge that I work through quite often with many of the mentees that I work with.
I would do almost anything to eradicate this problem completely (for myself and others) but it’s extremely difficult, and it’s often rooted deeply in our subconscious without us even knowing about it.
The good news is that once you do recognize it, you can start solving the puzzle that is; perfectionism.
Im overly organized, clean and tidy, very particular about things, obsessed with productivity, can be judgmental at times, and generally want everything to be ’perfect’.
On the outside, perfectionism has helped me:
- become a published author
- a writer for Forbes
- a verified content creator with an audience of over 200,000 people
- a millionaire in my early thirties
- a public speaker
- and to grow my newsletter to over 17,000 subscribers
– but what many perfectionists don’t realize is that many of our traits are rooted in fear — fear of failure, fear of criticism, and fear of not measuring up.
In reality, perfectionists set impossibly high goals, not out of ambition, but as a way to avoid that fear.
Sometimes they accomplish them, but more often than not — they don’t.
They are constantly haunted by self-doubt, always thinking about what could have been done better.
Mistakes feel monumental, and each one chips away at their confidence.
This cycle creates relentless stress and anxiety, draining productivity and stifling creativity.
Perfectionism is the silent tormentor that traps you in a loop of striving for something unattainable.
It ruins your relationships, especially the one you have with yourself.
It leaves you stuck in a state of perpetual procrastination.
The longer you delay, the more control perfectionism has over your life.
The question is—what are you really waiting for?
Seneca, one of the greatest philosophers in history wrote “While we wait for life, life passes.”
This is the cost of perfectionism.
By aiming for flawlessness, you miss out on the beauty of progress.
You miss out on growth.
The total cost of perfectionism on your life is devastating.
The misconception is that perfectionists care more about details and quality than others, but they don’t. At all.
The truth?
- They’re paralyzed by the fear of criticism.
- They don’t take risks.
- They don’t embrace new challenges.
They aim and aim and aim, but they never let go of the arrow.
This obsessive pursuit of an ideal not only erodes your creativity but also stifles your productivity.
Your art, business pursuit, or whatever project is never “ready” in your mind.
You hesitate, tweak, adjust, and restart, hoping that somehow, it will reach an unreachable standard.
The result?
Inaction.
If you’re tired of restarting, stop giving up, stop procrastinating, and stop “perfecting” (which is really just doing nothing).
So let’s make this very clear:
Perfectionism doesn’t drive success — it only hinders it.
As a creative, entrepreneur, or anyone trying to build something meaningful, this mindset is holding you back more than you realize.
Think of Thomas Edison, J.K. Rowling, or Michael Jordan.
They achieved legendary status not through perfection, but by embracing failure.
They made countless mistakes, but they learned and improved with every single one.
I want to share two books that finally weakened the hold that perfectionism had on my life:
Stop Overthinking by Nick Trenton
Overcoming Perfectionism by Roz Shafran
The first is a quick and easy read. The second, not so much, and will likely take weeks or months to get through, but worth it.
In the meantime –
Here’s some other advice from a recovering perfectionist (me):
Perfectionism Is a Barrier to Actual ‘Living’
Marcus Aurelius, one of my favorite emperors in history – wrote:
“The impediment to action advances action. What stands in the way becomes the way.”
This ancient wisdom reminds us that mistakes are not barriers to success—they are the path to it.
When you’re constantly putting things off in the pursuit of perfection, you’re not living. You’re stuck in a state of fear-driven paralysis.
Stop nagging yourself, doubting yourself. There is beauty in the imperfect. Real success doesn’t come from getting it right the first time. It comes from the act of doing, failing, and improving. Every great innovator, creator, and entrepreneur has messed things up along the way.
Steve Jobs, another favorite of mine, didn’t get it right with the first version of the iPhone. Oprah Winfrey, even though she kinda sucks – didn’t have an immediate path to success.
They all found their way by embracing imperfection.
“Memento Mori,” is an overdone played out tattoo that ‘bros’ often get to seem cool and interesting – but it does have a strong message –
It’s a Stoic reminder that we all will die, encourages us to stop wasting time in fear.
The best time to act is now.
Let go of the arrow.
Start your art.
Launch your business.
Say what you want to say.
Do what you want to do.
Worst-case scenario? No one notices anyway.
Perfectionism’s Impact on Your Relationships—and Yourself
One of the most destructive effects of perfectionism is how it ruins your relationships — especially with yourself.
By constantly striving for an unattainable ideal, you alienate yourself from the joy of the present moment and the satisfaction of progress.
You place relentless pressure on yourself, and that stress seeps into every aspect of your life. Your friends, family, and colleagues can feel it too.
Instead, imagine a life where you didn’t feel like you were never enough.
Imagine a life where you could release the weight of impossibly high expectations.
You would be free to create, to act, to build.
The absence of perfection allows for growth, improvement, and ultimately, success.
How to Break Free from Perfectionism
Although difficult, perfectionism is a mindset and behavior that can be changed over time.
It starts with truly acknowledging its grasp on you and recognizing that true progress is messy. Here’s a step-by-step framework you can use to break free:
1. Take Time to Reflect
Recognize when perfectionist tendencies arise. Keep a journal to track moments when you felt the need to be perfect. Identify the triggers and examine the outcomes.
2. Evaluate Your Standards
Are your goals realistic? Do they contribute to your well-being? Write down your expectations and assess whether they’re achievable.
3. Accept Imperfection
Challenge yourself to leave small mistakes in non-critical tasks. Progress comes from action, not perfection.
4. Compartmentalize Tasks
Break large goals into smaller, more manageable steps. Focus on completing each one “well enough” rather than perfectly.
5. Empower Yourself
Practice self-compassion. When self-critical thoughts arise, replace them with encouraging ones. Treat yourself with the kindness you would offer a friend.
Remember, the path to mastery is paved with mistakes.
I’ve talked about this countless times in my videos, here are a couple of examples:
You cannot achieve greatness by staying in your comfort zone, aiming for flawless execution every time. You must take risks, make errors, and learn.
Stop waiting for perfection.
Let go of the arrow.
Thank you for reading, If you’re an entrepreneur or creator struggling with perfectionism, join Project Resurgence – my private community focused on overcoming the Big 4: Perfectionism, Procrastination, Imposter Syndrome, and Self Doubt.
